By Rose Callea
The winter months can seem like they go on forever. With the holiday festivities over, it can be difficult to see the sunlight at the end of the long winter tunnel. That’s especially true for those who live alone, including older adults.
Just as we protect our bodies from the winter cold, we should protect our souls from the impact of loneliness and isolation. One way to do that is by maintaining a healthy spiritual life.
Research shows that spiritual and religious practices are positive forces in the lives of older adults. They make us more resilient, contribute to a positive state of mind and enable us to cope with life’s stresses.
Our ability to cultivate a spiritual relationship with God doesn’t end when we get old. In fact, it can grow stronger as we take time to reflect on life and its blessings. The solitude of winter makes it the perfect time to do this.
The pastoral care team at St. Ann’s Community is always focused on supporting our elders’ spiritual well-being. While rooted in the Catholic tradition, we offer spiritual support and comfort to all who need it. Many of the practices we use can be applied to everyday life, whether you reside with us or live on your own.
• Spiritual reflection. As the Gospel of John tells us, “God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them.” Remembering that can nourish the soul and guide us through challenging times. Set aside time each day to read a favorite passage from scripture or a literary verse that comforts you, as we do in small groups at St. Ann’s. Consider the grace and beauty around you and think about how God’s love is present in your life.
• Meditation. Use simple meditative techniques to create a sense of calm. Focus on your breathing, gently inhaling and exhaling, and feel the physical response of your body. Clear your mind and focus on the present moment instead of the past or future. This can help alleviate anxiety and achieve a feeling of inner peace, warming the soul and renewing the spirit.
• Socialization. In winter it’s easy to isolate ourselves. But too much time alone can result in loneliness, boredom and depression. At St. Ann’s, we encourage socialization year-round by offering our elders attendance at mass if they so choose, social gatherings to participate in and musical performances to enjoy. Take advantage of opportunities in your life to share joyful experiences with others. You’ll be surprised at how uplifting it can be.
• Being present. Even small, one-on-one interactions can have a positive effect when we are fully present in the moment. Make that phone call you’ve been putting off, chat with a neighbor over coffee, and enjoy the time spent together. If you know of someone who’s alone, make the effort to call or visit without distraction and focus on listening; it’s good for the spirit—both yours and the person you reach out to.
Remember: darkness always gives way to light. And no matter how long it takes to get here, spring will always arrive with its promise of hope and renewal.
Rose Callea is director of pastoral care at St. Ann’s Community. She can be reached at rcallea@mystanns.com.